Some of Nicole’s Most Popular Themes
Our Mess is Our Message!
Life is messy sometimes! And under the weight of things, we may be tempted to believe we are too messy, or too broken to be close to God - or to be used by Him. The truth is, God uses broken things all the time, and trusting Him with our whole story leads us into partnership with Him. Perspective changes everything - so what if we begin to see our struggles, the pain points in our lives as purposeful tools to help point others to Jesus?
Is. 43:19, “See, I am doing a new thing. Now it springs up, do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.” (NIV)
We Are Beautifully Broken - Some blessings are not wrapped in pretty packages - but still, God knows best. And He promises you can trust Him - even when things hurt. Even when things are hard. Nicole shares her personal experience with marital rejection and betrayal - and how God uses the valleys and brokenness to build intimacy with His children and dependency on Him.
Declaring Beauty for Ashes - We all have them - ashes. The disappointments, let downs and pain points that seek to hold us hostage to our past. But God is in the business of bringing beauty from ashes. He asks us to choose - wave the flag of victim, or the flag of victor. And when we lift up that victory flag, we choose beauty. We choose to stand with Him in His restoration process. Discover how to turn all the hurts over to Jesus, and embrace the beautiful life of redemption and restoration He has for us.
You Are the Right Woman for the Job - Your story is unique. Every one of us has a unique story and God-given purpose. Your life experiences, combined with your passions, skills, and expertise make you the perfect candidate for the role God has for you. The good, the bad, and the ugly bits that you’d rather forget about are all part of a puzzle pointing you in the direction of your calling. Nicole outlines the 4 step process for understanding your God given purpose and moving forward in confident faith.
Our Job is to Help Make Jesus Famous - Our purpose is to promote Jesus. In all we do, and all we say, our lives are to reflect Him, and direct others to Him. But what happens when we feel ill-equipped, defeated, or too broken to be of service? Learn to find your footing in your calling. This life-giving message encourages and inspires women to stand in the service of the King, and see their lives through the lens of this calling.
Boundaries, Boundaries, Everywhere!
We all struggle with boundaries at some point in our lives. And let’s be honest, with certain people in our lives too. Setting boundaries is daunting for some, and downright terrifying for others. And yet Jesus was a man of very strong boundaries, and He modelled assertive communication throughout His ministry. Skill development in this area improves mental health, relationship quality, and overall wellness. The format of these messages integrates therapeutic strategies with biblical principles, and invites participants to actively engage in their own process of boundary development.
John 14:6 “And Jesus answered, I am the way, the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.” (NIV)
Boundaries 101 - There are few things more important in our relationships and in our lives than boundaries. Nicole walks participants through the ABC’s of boundaries, and invites you to begin to understand this interpersonal skill through a new lens. This is an interactive, skills based message inviting women to understand the boundaries they already have, develop new ones as needed, and feel encouraged to use boundaries as a means of self care, relationship strengthening, and honouring God.
Be an Expert at the 5 Types of Boundaries - This deeper exploration helps participants understand all the areas in our lives that require boundaries. We look to Jesus as our example and incorporate scripture to support and affirm the changes we’re making along the way. This energetic and informative session is exciting for participants as they feel encouraged to make changes and strengthen boundaries.
Boundaries for the People-Pleaser - We like being liked. And sometimes our desire to be liked causes us to say
yes to things we know we need to say
no to. The boundary of saying
no can be a challenge. For many women, saying no is scary - and the fear of judgment, letting people down, or ruining our image can have us
yessing our way into things not meant for us. Nicole addresses these fears directly, and uses scripture, the life of Jesus, and Cognitive Behaviour Therapy strategies to help participants feel empowered to step away from people-pleasing and towards a more balanced, healthy life.
Assertive Communication for Women - Boundaries are a key function of assertive communication. As women, we tend to lean towards passive or even passive aggressive communication - and then feel resentful and hurt because we have been taken advantage of, mistreated, or overlooked. Jesus was an assertive communicator. He said what He meant in a direct, respectful manner. He clearly articulated Himself, and He wasn’t afraid to ask for what He needed, say no when He had to, and stand up for what He believed in. But delivery counts. This fun and entertaining message helps women build on the example of Jesus’s communication style, to enjoy healthier, happier relationships.
Grab Ahold Of Those Lemons and Make the Lemonade!
When life gives us lemons, we get to choose what we’re going to do with them. The truth is that nothing happens to us that hasn’t first passed through the steady and protective hands of our Heavenly Father. When the challenges come, He wants us to lock eyes with Him, lean hard on His promises, and follow faithfully as He leads us towards victory.
“I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have trouble. But take heart; I have overcome the world.” John 16:33 (NIV)
Choosing Lemonade - God wants to show you Who He is. His desire is to give good gifts to His kids. Learn how to choose peace and contentment through biblical perspectives and therapeutic strategies. Dive into perspective shifting strategies to help move you away from the struggle and into a new mindset.
Choosing the Victory Flag - We cannot wave the victim flag and the victor flag at the same time. Learn how to put down the flag that holds us hostage to our past pains, and pick up the God-ordained flag of victory!
Choosing Hope - God has made big promises to us in His Word - and most significantly, He sent Jesus as the Ultimate Hope. Learn how to stand against the pull of the past, and choose to cling to the Hope of Jesus through the challenges of each day.
Choosing Courage - Leaning fully on Jesus builds courage. And as we walk through the challenges in life, we find that God-infused courage is the recipe for success. Learn how to step into a new identity of courageous - and feel ready for the next chapters God has for you.